You may know my name, but you don't know my story.

No two circumstances are the same. You can compare our lives, pass judgement & make assumptions, but don't get too excited, because until you've been in my shoes you really have no room to talk, or give advice-especially when no one is asking for it.

LoL, It is too funny when people without children try to tell you what to do, how to react, give pointers or tips. I mean I know you are trying to "help" but more then likely you are going to offend someone if you have no idea what you are talking about. I'm not saying people without children have no say, or knowledge, A caregiver, teacher, nanny, or very close relative to a child would know common things. It doesn't take a Parent to give advice at all times. I'm not trying to knock anyone without children . But my point is, there are different aspects to life, if you have no children, how can you compare yourself going through the same things and emotions as I?

I'm not saying your life is any less stressful then mine, but if you are married with children going through a deployment I think it's pretty tough considering you get no break whatsoever, you have to take care of your children ALL on your own, away from family most likely, and keep it together, because they feed off your vibe and mood. I wish I had the opportunity to go through a deployment without children, I wouldn't have anything to worry about except myself and my spouse. I could get a job, school, go home, have peace and quiet, and be able to do whatever I want when I feel like it. And if I decide to pour my heart and soul out, scream to the roof tops or fall to my knees and cry-WHO THE EFF CARES. Really everyone handles things differently, and I don't need anyone to tell me different.

I have spent plenty of time away from my husband in the past 7 years. Being apart never gets any easier, you just learn to deal and cope with it in other ways. You get used to it, but you never miss them any less. But with each day, I will say I get stronger, braver and quite honestly become proud of myself.

I really do appreciate when people try to help, and it means the world to me, especially if you are one of my closest friends, but when you are an aquaintence, I really don't want to hear it. Give me love and support, because that I need. But I don't need advice on how to "unwind" or "reconnect" with my husband. We are fully connected lol! I'm just going to have to laugh people off, even if they "think" they're doing it with the best of intentions.